Free your kinks and send your fears away.

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Who’s in charge of your sexual pleasure?

That’s a hell of a question. Sometimes our most unusual sexual fantasies seem impossible to accept, let alone fulfill. If you’re ready to change that, there are two essential skills you’ll need to master: negotiation and self-awareness.

Good instincts and reasoning play an essential role in our possibilities to conquer almost everything in life. Let’s say we want something. Anything.

Well, we have to work hard until we get it. Then, for a brief moment, we can savor the joy of accomplishment and press repeat. …


An empathic guide to cutting all ties when there’s no other choice

Cartoon of a chain breaking.
Cartoon of a chain breaking.
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Have you ever felt the need to cut ties with a highly toxic person who plays a significant role in your life? I have. On more than one occasion, regrettably, I have been involved with narcissistic people.

Achieving that realization and understanding the reasons why that kept happening wasn't easy or quick. So, nowadays, I’m working on setting boundaries to prevent the whole story from repeating itself.

What successfully got me out of relationships with narcissistic people was setting in motion the strategies described below.

What Ghosting Is All About

Ghosting is a radical way to set effective boundaries with people who lack empathy or…


Let all your secret kinks out.

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What type of porn do you like?

That simple question could save us lots of trouble in the long run. If only dating could be that easy. Sexual openness has increased over the years, but talking about your boudoir kinks and favorite porn stars is taboo.

My favorite porn actor is Nacho Vidal, in case you’re wondering. Nacho is a very sexy, intelligent, ambitious entrepreneur who works in Barcelona, ​​talking about ethics and raising awareness in the pornography industry.

He also sells perfume bottles that are reliable replicas of his most alluring body part.

An 8 step guide to preventing Karens from ruining your biz.

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Independence, being able to make your own schedule, letting your creativity run free…Those are some of the main reasons why many of us request discharge from the “industrial reserve army” by starting a new side hustle as freelance content creators.

Ah, but there’s a catch. Being a successful side hustler means on top of mastering the skill, service, or product you’re trying to sell, you’ll also have to deal with highly demanding clients.

There’s no manager to step up for you when they refuse to pay. …


No! But here’s what you gotta do to keep your writing alive.

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Since P.S. I Love You imploded, being a relationships writer myself -one that pitched dozens of stories to them and never made the cut- I couldn’t help but ask myself some questions about my professional future here in Medium.

  • Is the love and relationships niche saturated?
  • Have we abused the topic to the point of exhaustion?
  • Is nobody interested in loving each other anymore?
  • Should I become a productivity/personal growth author?
  • Is Medium a black, empty void for heartless writers?

Nah, Medium does have a softer, romantic side. …

Because creating content is an ever-changing gig.

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Sometimes professional change is an option, but we often find ourselves facing situations beyond our control. The sudden and very uncomfortable processes we all go through in an ever-changing global economy demands we rethink our side hustles into flexible tools to achieve a not-so-flexible objective.

How’s that? It means that while your destination should remain the same, you should constantly revisit your roadmap. Yes, you may encounter obstacles in doing so, but you could also find shortcuts.

We live inside a black box:

When you’re in your 20’s, you think you have everything figured out. After graduating from high school, you find your passion, work hard…

Have your cake and eat it too!

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Having a side hustle might be the only way to get by when working with low wages, economic uncertainty, and the high cost of living, but where do you start? How can you figure out the right side job for you?

In this article, we’ll address the perfect formula to achieve success in your new endeavor. Juggling with your schedule while letting go of the illusion of perfectionism can help you undertake this new project with the necessary resilience to achieve your goals.

Now, let’s embark together on this list with the “best ingredients” to prep yourself for your new…


We aren’t ready to drop our masks just yet.

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Since the CDC announced the US is heading back to a mask-free era, I started thinking about sex. I know it might sound like a weird combination, but after over four decades of advertising condoms as a method to prevent AIDS, we are still fighting some misconceptions.

Unprotected sex has made us all reflect on how we take care of ourselves and protect others.

What about masks and vaccinations? I think we all agree that wearing a mask, washing our hands regularly, and drowning ourselves in hand sanitizer changed our health experience dramatically.

On average, adults have between 2–3 colds…


Sex is always emotional, and it’s time to let it all out.

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There are three phases of the sexual response: excitement, plateau, and orgasm. But, as some of us would admit, there’s also a fourth part where you can’t hold your emotions back.

Why do you feel like crying after sex? And what can you do about it? Those are the two questions we are going to be addressing today.

If you, like myself, have found yourself crying after an orgasm, you’ve probably experienced some confusion and perhaps shame for having such mixed emotions. After all, crying your eyes out after experiencing an orgasm isn’t expected, even when the sex was terrible.

Crying after sex is actually a thing:


I didn’t get the $500 bonus either.

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Yes, we are all very aware that the best 1,000 writers received a $500 bonus on the platform. This article is an attempt to make some emotional damage control for writers that want to quit.

Through an e-mail, a thousand writers received well-deserved recognition for their articles’ performance during April. Currently, those are the most outstanding writers around.

I don’t know how many active members are part of the partner program, but I am possibly a member of the Facebook group formed by the 1,000 writers who received that “stimulus writer’s check.”

The avalanche of messages on the writer’s Facebook…

Nataly U

Learning about love and humans. Writing along the process. Political Scientist/M.Sc. Communications.

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