This is why you’re not getting any. — Anal sex has been around since the dawn of time. Why? Because humans are curious. When there’s a problem, we want to fix it, and where there’s a hole… somebody will stick something in it in the name of science and pleasure. Most likely, our ancestors -even before inventing the…

Free your kinks and send your fears away. — Who’s in charge of your sexual pleasure? That’s a hell of a question. Sometimes our most unusual sexual fantasies seem impossible to accept, let alone fulfill. If you’re ready to change that, there are two essential skills you’ll need to master: negotiation and self-awareness. Good instincts and reasoning play an…

An empathic guide to cutting all ties when there’s no other choice — Have you ever felt the need to cut ties with a highly toxic person who plays a significant role in your life? I have. On more than one occasion, regrettably, I have been involved with narcissistic people. Achieving that realization and understanding the reasons why that kept happening wasn't easy…

Can you micro-dose your way out of trauma? — I was attending a narrative writing workshop when I learned all readers need to make a pact with the writer to allow themselves to enjoy a story. That’s why the most successful stories have only one thing in common. No matter how whimsical and fantastic the story is, the time…

And how to address the erect elephant in the room. — Whenever I’ve found myself between relationships, I always take one of two roads: playing the Femme Fatale role or becoming a model of purity, A.K.A. “working on myself.” Especially after overcoming a period of passionate sexual energy and equally intense arguments, we tend to demonize intercourse, thinking there was a…

There’s an altered state of consciousness called subspace, where pain and pleasure become one. — When he pierced my nipples with two low-gauge needles, my ability to feel pain escaped through the imperceptible orifice temporarily decorating my breasts. Experiencing that level of transgression was so intense I couldn’t feel anything but an adrenaline rush. …

I went to a BDSM meetup, and I left wanting more. — Beyond the overwhelming variety of gadgets, the cringing noise of latex rubbing between a dominatrix's thighs, and fighting the furious urge to play with yourself, going to a dungeon gathering feels like an erotic breath of fresh air. After years of experimentation, curiosity, and softcore bliss, I decided to put…

Build a fearless life while finding yourself in the process — Out of everything you haven't achieved, what is the one thing you are desperate to accomplish before kicking the bucket? We keep punching our dreams down with lazy days, filled with one excuse after another. …

Marriage isn't a prison; it's a neverending well of excuses. — Now that we're finding new outdoorsy forms of socializing after a two-year gap that helped us realize we never wanted to see some people again, how can you stretch the lockdown gift of freedom from social obligations? You hit the jackpot! Get married if you're ready to keep squeezing free…